Why Be All Alone When You Don't Have To?

Let’s assume for a moment that you or someone you know is having relationship problems. What’s one of the first things many people want to do when they’re feeling frustrated, confused and/or disheartened by their relationship problems?

They want to talk and share. They want to share with someone who will listen. Share with someone who will understand what they’re going through and be able to empathize with their situation. They want to know that they are not alone in their struggles and that there isn’t something terribly wrong with them, some sort of fatal flaw that has rendered them incapable of having a happy marriage, a happy relationship.

People also want helpful insights and wise feedback as to why their problems exist and what they can do to solve them. Unfortunately for many people, finding a place to share their relationship challenges and gaining insights as to how they can improve them is difficult, if not close to impossible. As a result, they are left alone to try and figure out and fix their relationship problems.

Why do so many people have to “go it alone” when dealing with dating and marriage relationship problems?

- First…your friends and family may care a great deal, but do they have the time to listen to you share? Most people I know are rather busy, how about you? Time is the most precious commodity people have and they usually don’t feel that they have enough of it. It takes time and energy to listen well and give constructive feedback.

 - They may care a great deal, but are they able to remain objective about “your” situation and not end up trying to push their own ideas and agenda? Some of the most well meaning people, give some of the worst possible advice simply because their own feelings, wants and desires unknowingly get in the way. They find it difficult if not impossible to remain objective about your situation and see it from your perspective.

- Friends and family may care a lot, but do they really want to hear about your relationship challenges? Just because people love you, doesn’t mean they feel capable of helping you. Many friends and family members feel very uncomfortable discussing your relationship challenges because they don’t know what to do to help. Some don’t want to talk about these sort of problems because doing so reminds them of the problems they’re having, and haven’t been able to get relief from.

It’s also common that the process of bringing up relationship problems strikes fear into them because they’re all too aware that when marriage and dating relationships break down, it’s more than just the couple that is affected. There is a ripple effect that impacts many of the people closely associated with them, causing division between more than just the couple.

Second…can you afford $100.00 - $150.00 per hour for a counselor? If you can, terrific! There are many fine counselors who do great work. The problem is, very few people can afford such fees, even if only once a week. The vast majority of people can’t afford an extra $400.00 -$600.00 per month for one session per week.

The third reason so many people have to go it alone when dealing with dating and marriage relationship problems…they have been taught that they can learn enough by simply reading a book. Now I don’t know about you, but the last time I checked, a dating or marriage relationship was a pretty “interactive” experience. A book is not. Reading a book about relationships can provide a tremendous amount of good information. What it can’t do is help you learn how to apply that information, to work it into your life. It can’t help you practice new ways of relating.

Can you imagine learning how to type by only reading a book?

If it isn’t reasonable to expect a person to read a book on typing and then without practice type 40-50 words a minute, why should we expect a person to read a relationship book and without practice be able to affect much positive change in their relationship? That’s certainly not a recipe for success.

Is it any wonder less than 10% of all non-fiction books that are published don’t get read past the first chapter?

Lastly…does learning new things need to be boring and dull?

No. The most common method of education is based on rote memory. The idea is that if you’ve memorized the information it will somehow make its way into the fabric of your life. We know this is not the case. Students who have scored high on tests are consistently only able to remember a small fraction of the information weeks later. Therefore the student got a grade but not necessarily an education.

Rote memory is tedious, and if you’re anything like me, I would rather avoid the tedious and dull and do something that’s both helpful and enjoyable at the same time. This is where we come in…

We help people share and learn about relationships in small group settings via telephone conferencing.

Here’s how it works:

1. Each group is 50 minutes long.

2. Each group has a trained leader to facilitate the sharing and help people practice working the information into their lives.

3. Each group member receives a short lesson before their sharing session. This lesson is to provide some seed thoughts for people…to help get the conversation started. Here are some examples:

• Myths of Marriage
• Top 3 Reasons Men Don’t Ask Women Out
• 3 Essential Skills Every Married Man Needs

4. Each sharing session costs only $12.95 U.S.

Give the service a try for free by signing up for the free telephone conference call "Life, Death and the Oppositie Sex."

Benefits of Easy Relationship Help

- It’s safe. We humans are social creatures and tend to learn better when we’re a part of a healthy group environment. All information shared is confidential.

- It’s practical. Learning happens best by doing. A part of each group sharing session is dedicated to role playing in order to allow people the freedom to practice what they’re learning without the fear of making a mistake.

- Mistakes are normal when learning new ways of relating. We don’t believe that practice makes perfect, but practice certainly makes things better than not trying at all because of the fear of making a mistake. Mistakes are normal when learning new ways of relating.

- Sharing stories with others can help reduce feelings of loneliness that people often have when they’re challenged by the dating process or when trying to make their marriage work. It can often feel like we’re the only one dealing with our specific set of problems, when the truth is usually quite the opposite. Our challenges are usually more common than we realize.

- Hearing other people’s stories often helps us make sense of our own situation, to give us some much needed perspective and clarity. Difficult situations that have existed for a lengthy period of time in a relationship can cause us to wonder if there is “something wrong with us.” Hearing other people share their stories helps us to realize that we’re not alone, and in fact, we're most likely pretty normal. This feedback can provide a tremendous amount of hope for a person.

- There are no long term commitments required, just join a group when you want to.

- The structure is convenient. No need to travel. As long as you have a phone, you can join.

- The groups are facilitated by trained small group leaders to ensure a positive experience for all.

- It’s affordable, only $12.95 per 50 minute session.

- It's risk free! After you've given the service a try by signing up for the free "Life, Death and the Opposite Sex" telephone conference call, the next 4 group sharing sessions you attend are covered by our no risk 100% money back guarantee.

Give the service a try for free by signing up for the free telephone conference call "Life, Death and the Oppositie Sex."

Sincerely,

Chris Keenan - founder of Easy Relationship Help