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Why is Sex So Important to Men?

All men want is sex, right? Well, it is very important to men, but very few women understand why. This lack of understanding creates conflict in marriage relationships. This is highly preventable though. With a clear comprehension of why sex is so important to men, relationship tension can be decreased. To be fair, sex is also important to women. With men sex is more like a vehicle, whereas with women sex is akin to a destination. A little understanding regarding the opposite sex’s viewpoint can go a long way to building more harmony in the marriage.

Ladies, think of a time where you were apart from your man for a long period of time. Maybe one of you went on a business trip or something. When you got back together the most pressing thing on his mind was sex. If you’re like many women, your first desire was to hear about his trip or share some details about yours. As a result of that sharing, once the mood had been set, look to have sex.

Here’s where men and women are almost completely opposite from one and other.

Men are 90% physical and 10% emotional.

Women are 90% emotional and 10% physical.

A vivid example of these gender differences can be seen in the choices women and men make when they socialize with friends of the same sex.

Women spend time talking and sharing their feelings about life experiences. How they were affected and who the people involved were, is paramount to the discussion. Men tend to go shoot hoops, climb a mountain or go to a sporting event. They do action oriented activities with their buddies.

The primary way men express themselves is through their physical actions. They do much less sharing of personal information than a woman would.

In social situations men are most commonly asked what they are doing for work. Conversely, women are most often asked how they’re doing, whether at work or home. It’s a question of emotions and feelings. The key question for men is based on action. What are you doing? Very infrequently are men asked how they’re doing. What we do tends to define us more than how we‘re doing.

Men are biologically geared and socially reinforced towards action. We are less geared towards a broad range of emotional expressions.

A key reason sex is so important to men, is it allows us to access our emotions more easily. That’s a vital point worth a second read.

Through sex with his wife a man can soften his demeanour. He can experience greater vulnerability and intimacy with his wife as a result. This is what tons of women are so frustrated about in their marriages. They want deeper intimacy and vulnerability with their man.

Many women are mistaken in their assessment of men. They wrongly measure them by their unique female basis for sex.

Most women want to feel some emotional bond, warmth, tenderness with their husband before they have sex. Men often want to have sex in order to get that emotional bond.